Membership Queries
Difference between Regular and Full Membership
Full Membership Cost
Will my card be re-billed?
I do not wish to re-new my Full Membership
Search/Contact Queries:
How do I search for other people?
How do I make contact
What is a ‘Quick Hello’
How do I send a Full Message?
Profile Queries:
A Guide to Completing your profile
How can I change my Profile?
Is my Email Address secure?
How to change your Email Address
How to stop our Emails going to your ‘bulk’ or ‘spam’ folder
How do I change my password?
Not received or lost your Authentication Code
Messages are not opening/showing
How can I pay without a Credit Card?
Delete my Profile
Photo Queries:
How do I upload my photo?
Why has my photo not been released?
Clearing Your Cache of 'Stored Pages'
General Safety Advice
Tips For Success
Abuse/Concerns
Can I contact you by Telephone?
Can I Link to Your Site?
As a Regular Member you can add your profile and photograph totally FREE and you
may search our database of singles totally FREE. When you decide you
want to contact another site member or read or reply to another member's
messages you need to upgrade to Full Membership. As a Full Member
you will then be able to send unlimited messages to as many other members as
you like and have use of the 'Full Search' function which gives more options to
search for your ideal person.
Regular Membership is FREE
| Full Membership costs are as follows |
UK
GBP |
Australia
AUD |
Other Sites
Local Currency |
| 10 Days (UK 5 days) costs just |
7.50 |
14.00 |
7.50 |
| 1 Month (30 days) costs just |
16.99 |
29.00 |
14.50 |
| 3 Months (90 days) costs just |
29.99 |
49.00 |
24.50 |
| 6 Months (180 days) costs just |
49.99 |
70.00 |
35.00 |
| 12 Months (365 days) costs just |
74.99 |
109.00 |
54.50 |
Use the Upgrade link on the top menu to become a Full Member.
No, we
will never automatically re-bill your card. Your card will be billed once only
for your chosen subscription. Once the
Full membership expires you will revert back to being a Regular Member. You can
upgrade at any time by repeating the Upgrade process.
You
will simply return to being a Regular Member. You will still be able to perform searches on the site. You can still
view other members' profiles and pictures. Your profile will still remain
listed on the site unless you remove it.
There are several ways to search for people on Total Love.
If you
are looking for people who meet certain criteria you will get the best results
by using our 'Full Search' (available to FULL members). This search allows specific search
information to be entered.
A Regular
Search lets you search using less criteria. You can then decide whether you
want to see all matching results for your search or just those with photos.
The
search facility works by using the information you have put in – it can be
amended and saved for future use at any time.
You can
also search by using:
Photo
Gallery: Displays all the most recent photo
profiles released
New Members: Returns newest
members first
Fast Find: Enter the ID number of the person you
wish to contact
Once
you have located a member through a Search, please click on their 'View
Profile' link, there are two different ways that you can contact someone through
Total Love:
A Quick Hello:
Any
member can say a 'Quick Hello' - you do not need to have upgraded to full
membership.
With
the ‘Quick Hello’ we have created a short message for you, which reads: Hi, Somebody is interested in getting
to know you a bit more. Click here to find out who through Total Love. using this
lets the member know you
have seen their profile.
Clicking
on the 'Send Quick Hello' will send this email message straight to the member
with a link to
your profile on the site. They can then see what you have said about yourself
and decide if they want to get in touch with you.
Send a Full Message:
To send
someone a Full Message, you need to be a Full member (however, the person that
you are sending to does not need to be a full member themselves).
Just
click the button 'Send Message', type your message in the blank box and click
Send. A message is sent to their personal email address from us alerting them
to check the message on the site.
Your
profile will be approved by one of our moderators before it is shown on the
site. We aim to view all profiles within one working day of submission. To help
everyone and to stop you wasting time, your profile must be written within the
bounds of the Terms & Conditions of our site. The sooner it is uploaded the
sooner you can begin to see results.
Profiles
will not be accepted if they contain any of the following:
Any
personal contact information; including email addresses; home address; any
telephone number or other types of information which may permit other persons
to make contact with you outside of the security of the site.
An
incomplete or illegible profile or message.
Any offensive/explicitly sexual language or sexual innuendo or aggressive or
abusive language.
Anything that is contrary to racial or gender legislation.
Any kind of promotion of another website, commercial or personal
Click on the ‘Edit Profile’
link on the left hand side and amend any of the fields and Click ‘Continue’ at
the bottom of the page.
To
change the text in your profile, click on the 'Edit profile' link, and write
over the details that are there already. Click on 'Continue'
Amendments
to your profile or photographs will need to be moderated by the
Total Love team. We view all profiles as quickly as possible but
generally within one working day.
Your email address is
not made available to anyone on site. You should ensure that any information you
place on site does not contain your e-mail address as This could be used by
others to send unsolicited emails.
Click on the ’Edit Personal Details’
link on the left hand side. Overtype your email address in both
fields and click ‘update’. Follow on
screen instructions from there.
Increasingly,
ISPs are using filtering systems to try and keep Spam out of customers'
inboxes. Sometimes, they accidentally filter the e-mail that you want to
receive.
To make
sure that our emails and support e-mails are not filtered into your
"junk" or "bulk" folder, please add us to your list of
trusted senders.
Here's how:
Hotmail:
Place the domain
reallyfabdating.com in your safe list. The safe list can be accessed via the
"Options" link next to the main menu tabs.
AOL:
Place the domain
reallyfabdating.com in your address book.
Yahoo! Mail:
If one of our emails is
filtered to your 'bulk' folder, open the message and click on the "this is
not Spam" link next to the "From" field.
Other providers:
If one of your emails is
being filtered, try adding reallyfabdating.com or our newsletter's
'From' or 'Reply-to' address to your address book or contact list. If this
option is not available, try moving the message to your 'inbox' or forwarding
the message to yourself.
If
subsequent messages continue to be filtered, call or e-mail your ISP's tech
support and specifically ask how you can be sure to receive all e-mail from
reallyfabdating.com Follow their instructions for white listing
reallyfabdating.com
We're
very sorry for the inconvenience, but these circumstances are beyond our
control. All we can do is work together with the ISPs to shut out the spammers.
IMPORTANT:
If you use a service like SpamArrest make sure that you accept emails from
website@reallyfabdating.com
Click on the ’Edit Personal Details’ link on the left hand side. Overtype the current one and click
‘update’. Follow on screen instructions
from there.
Check that this has not been sent to your ‘spam’ box by your email
provider – remember to add us to your address book for future use.
Log in using your email address and password, use the ‘To re-send the authorisation code, Click Here’ link.
If this has
been an intermittent problem and previously or even now you can see other
messages then it is probable that the person who contacted you has since been
removed or removed themselves from the site.
We can accept a cheque or postal/money order made payable to NSI (Holdings) Ltd To be sent to:
NSI (Holdings) Ltd
Darby House
Bletchingly Road
Merstham
Surrey
RH1 3DN
England
Please
include your membership number/name/email used for accessing the site.
Be sure you want to delete your profile, as this will wipe all your
information. Some people prefer to
update their précis with ‘not looking right now’ or similar – especially if
they still have some ‘paid’ membership.
To remove yourself, log in to
the site, click 'Edit Personal Details', and use
the link at the bottom of the page
You need to have a photo already saved to your computer.
Use the ‘Your Photos’ tab on the left hand side, then click the Browse button
to search for the photo you have saved on your computer
Once you find the picture you want to upload select it and click
‘open’ then click 'store photo'
This will send the photo for us to view. Once approved we will release it
(please allow one working day)
Photo 1 needs to be of just you and preferably head and shoulders!
Photo 2 & 3 can be of you and anyone else - but no children please!
Please allow
one working day for your photo to be released.
If it is still not there:
All
photographs added to the reallyfabdating.com site are moderated by one of our
team and will not be released for any one or more of the following reasons:
The photo
is sexually explicit, suggestive or shows nudity. This does not preclude what
might be described as 'evening wear' for instance.
The photo
is obviously not one of you - for example an animation, a picture from a book
etc. or a picture of a pop/film star and the like.
The photo
is of a person apparently under the age of 18 years - only photographs of
adults are acceptable.
If the
Picture 1 photograph is of more than one person. i.e. a group.
If the
photograph is blurred or taken at such an angle that it does not clearly show
the subjects face.
Thank you
for your co-operation in this matter. Please do not waste your time or ours by
trying to upload any of the above.
We would
like all users of the site to have an enjoyable experience.
Protect yourself by wiping out your web pages
To make your account even more secure, we instruct most browsers not to cache
(or store) the web pages you've seen in their memory. This prevents others from
calling up the last pages you visited, which is important if you share a
computer.
This feature does not work when using an Internet Explorer browser with a Mac.
We therefore strongly recommend that you always clear your cache when you
log-out of your account. If you are using a Netscape browser, this feature can
also limit your print function when you are in your account.
To ensure that your computer is not caching pages especially when sharing it
with others and in Internet Cafes and libraries, it is advisable to empty the
cache anyway.
How to clear your cache
To clear your cache, follow the instructions below for your type of computer
and browser.
PC USERS
Netscape
Select the 'Edit' menu and then 'Preferences' from the dropdown menu.
Select 'Advanced'.
From the dropdown menu choose 'Cache'. Then select 'Clear Memory Cache' and
'Clear Disk Cache' buttons.
Microsoft Internet Explorer (version 4/5/6)
Select 'Tools' and then 'Internet Options'.
Choose the 'General' tab. On the 'Temporary Internet Files' section of the
screen use the 'Delete Files' button.
APPLE MACINTOSH USERS
Netscape
Select the 'Edit' menu and then 'Preferences' from the dropdown menu. Click on
'Advanced'.
From the dropdown menu choose 'Cache' and then select the 'Clear Disk Cache
Now' button.
Microsoft Internet Explorer (versions 4 & 5)
Select 'Edit' and then 'Preferences. Select 'Web Browser'.
From the dropdown menu choose 'Advanced'. On the 'Cache' section of the screen,
use the 'Empty Now' button.
Meeting
others through reallyfabdating.com is one of the safest ways to meet and get to
know people. Members are never required to give details that they do not wish
to give and all communications are safe and secure going through the site admin
system. This means that your email address is never displayed or given out by
Total Love.
Here are some suggested do's and don'ts before you
meet:
Never fake
your photograph as it will always catch up with you and may make a prospective
partner angry having wasted their time. The same applies to your profile, if
you think you are 'cuddly' rather than 'medium' then say so. If you are
interested in a serious relationship tell the truth.
Part of
the enjoyment of on-line dating can be flirting with the other party. You
should not be afraid to do this as it is anonymous if you want it to be but
equally remember not to go too far by communicating in a way not generally
expected on a site of this nature.
Be
comfortable with what you are saying and do not promise something you are
uncomfortable with or not capable of eventually delivering when meeting.
You should
avoid at all cost giving your telephone number, home address or place of work
to a stranger, no matter how nice they seem to be.
If you
telephone them, withhold your number from their caller ID.
There are
people out there who unfortunately are born liars and fraudsters and you should
be aware of these people. Look for inconsistencies in their stories and
lifestyle when corresponding and talking.
Look for
inconsistencies in the information they give you about their appearance, age,
status and other matters.
People who
tell lies are generally caught out by them, beware.
If you
ever feel uncomfortable with a date or a member give it up. Block their
messages and if for some reason they are a nuisance let us know by using the
link below.
If someone
is abusing the site or service we provide please contact us.
The Date:
Never let
a date pick you up from your home address.
Never let
them make arrangements for your accommodation if it is required.
When you
first meet make sure that it is a very public place and let someone know where
you are going and the name of the person you are meeting. Even arrange to call
or text that person once you are there and maybe again during the course of the
date.
Giving a
rough time when you intend to return is also worthwhile and recommended.
Arranging
to go out, as part of a group is a good idea, you then have your friends around
you.
Never
accept a lift home if you are not 100% comfortable with it.
Take a
mobile phone with you that is serviceable and have a person to call to come and
pick you up if necessary.
It is not
a race. Take your time to get to know someone and if they are truly interested
in you they will agree it is for the best. Don't be forced into something you
might regret.
Stay sober
for this reason and all the points above.
If
you have second thoughts about the date and worry about safety don't go.
Be proactive, try to make the first
move! Don't just surf the site and wait for others to message you. Being
proactive will show you are serious and may considerably improve your chances.
Reply promptly to emails others have sent you whether you are interested or
not, if you are not interested then have the courtesy to say so.
Display a photo of yourself with your
profile. The majority of our members only respond to profiles with photos. When
you choose your main photo, choose one with a good clear 'head and shoulders'
and preferably smiling. It may make all the difference to the amount of replies
you get. You can upload your photo directly to the site from your desktop.
Uploading is relatively simple. Click
'Your Photos' from the side navigation bar. This takes you to the photos page.
You will see a text entry box with 'browse' written at the side of it. Click
this browse button and that will show all the directories on your computer in
the usual windows format. Double click on the photo you want to upload and the
link appears in the text box. Click the 'submit' button to upload it. Please
note, your main picture should be square where possible and measure as near to
178 pixels in height & width. If necessary, we will modify your uploaded
photo to the correct dimensions.
Make sure your profile is truthful
and the description of yourself is accurate, genuine and interesting. Read it
to yourself out loud, see if you would want to write back and contact the
person described.
Practise your writing skills on a
Word Processor package until you get it right. This will ensure that you are
happy with it prior to posting it and also save you money by not being on-line
whilst you tweak it. When you are ready just cut and paste it into the message
body.
Try to refrain from using short
sentences saying the sort of things that might be obvious, i.e. I like you or
you are lovely lets get together. People take a long while filling in their
profiles thoughtfully and truthfully. Try to appreciate that and tell them
about your interests and something of your life. Tell them about your expectations
in life and a relationship. Be happy, it might be the 'love of your life' you
are about to 'talk' to. Try to say that you have something or lots in common if
you have. Glean what you can from their profile.
It is unwise to mention sex as the other
party may think this is your only interest and will probably not write back. Be
sensitive in this area. Take heed of the above and have a happy experience.
The very best of luck!
If you have any concerns about the authenticity or content of emails you
receive from other registered users, contact us, we will investigate and deal according to
our findings.
All personal enquiries are dealt with from our UK office
International helpline: +44 (0) 1737 642424 during normal office hours.
UK: all calls are charged at National Rate on our helpline:
0870 24 131 24 during normal UK office hours.
Ask for the webmaster at Really Fab Dating.
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